Air Date:  November 5, 2010

Part  1

There is comfort in numbers. I think it is amazing how 200 men stood together in Harpo studios. Thank U Oprah! Thank U Tyler Perry! Thank U Staffers! Thank U Men! This type of work (shows) have inspired millions around the world to watch your show for 25 years.

The show opens with all 200 men standing holding their own childhood pictures in silence. Everyone in the room stands up to say they had been sexually abused by someone they at one time trusted.

Oprah asks Tyler Perry how he feels since he was on the show talking in detail about his own abusive situations. He replies with “I feel a lot lighter.”

Did you know?

  • 1 out of 6 men have been sexually abused

Oprah explains to the audience that “all pain is the same.” Patrick and his twin brother Kevin speak out about their sexual abuse from their priest. And, later gang raped from multiple priests. For 13 years nearly on a daily basis these twins were violated to say the very least. The physical nightmare finally stops when their parents recorded phone conversations. How has it changed their lives? Patrick says, it has destroyed relationships, it changed my life, I’m a bitter man.

Oprah quotes one of her previous guest on how he defined forgiveness. “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different. It’s accepting the past for what it was.”

The next brave man to talk about his abuse is Chad. He speaks about his own father sexually abusing him in his own home. The abuse happened four times a week. Chad shares he has trust issues that have stem from his childhood abuse. Oprah asks do you think your mother knew? Chad says “sometimes I think she had an inclination.” At the age of 17 (7 years after being sexually abused by his father) he told his family (mother and sister) and no one believed him. Oprah’s show producers talked to Chad’s father and his father admitted abusing his son. Oprah shares with the audience that Chad’s mother is still married to his father.

I really love how Oprah lays it on the line for Chad. Just seconds before Chad was giving details about how his 2 children do visit his parents and how he restricts his kids from staying overnight at their grandparents house. Chad continues to say how he won’t let his mother take the children back to her house after going to eat out. Oprah says, “But how could you possibly, trust your mother ,with your children. That your mother would do the right things by your children, when your mother did not do the right thing by you?” The audiences applauds.

PHD. Howard Fradkin enters the discussion and points out that is no way the fault of the child. The abuser does prey on children that are vulnerable.

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