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Air Date:  November 5, 2010

Part  1

There is comfort in numbers. I think it is amazing how 200 men stood together in Harpo studios. Thank U Oprah! Thank U Tyler Perry! Thank U Staffers! Thank U Men! This type of work (shows) have inspired millions around the world to watch your show for 25 years.

The show opens with all 200 men standing holding their own childhood pictures in silence. Everyone in the room stands up to say they had been sexually abused by someone they at one time trusted.

Oprah asks Tyler Perry how he feels since he was on the show talking in detail about his own abusive situations. He replies with “I feel a lot lighter.”

Did you know?

  • 1 out of 6 men have been sexually abused

Oprah explains to the audience that “all pain is the same.” Patrick and his twin brother Kevin speak out about their sexual abuse from their priest. And, later gang raped from multiple priests. For 13 years nearly on a daily basis these twins were violated to say the very least. The physical nightmare finally stops when their parents recorded phone conversations. How has it changed their lives? Patrick says, it has destroyed relationships, it changed my life, I’m a bitter man.

Oprah quotes one of her previous guest on how he defined forgiveness. “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different. It’s accepting the past for what it was.”

The next brave man to talk about his abuse is Chad. He speaks about his own father sexually abusing him in his own home. The abuse happened four times a week. Chad shares he has trust issues that have stem from his childhood abuse. Oprah asks do you think your mother knew? Chad says “sometimes I think she had an inclination.” At the age of 17 (7 years after being sexually abused by his father) he told his family (mother and sister) and no one believed him. Oprah’s show producers talked to Chad’s father and his father admitted abusing his son. Oprah shares with the audience that Chad’s mother is still married to his father.

I really love how Oprah lays it on the line for Chad. Just seconds before Chad was giving details about how his 2 children do visit his parents and how he restricts his kids from staying overnight at their grandparents house. Chad continues to say how he won’t let his mother take the children back to her house after going to eat out. Oprah says, “But how could you possibly, trust your mother ,with your children. That your mother would do the right things by your children, when your mother did not do the right thing by you?” The audiences applauds.

PHD. Howard Fradkin enters the discussion and points out that is no way the fault of the child. The abuser does prey on children that are vulnerable.

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Oprah Shows Changing Lives-O-Meter

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Show Segments Ripped From The Wires

  • Teen Boy Lives With Killing His Molester
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  • Female convicted killers

Week  6 Show Breakdown

10/22/2010 When Your Own Mother Is a Notorious Killer
10/21/2010 Lisa Marie Presley Speaks Out About the Death of Michael Jackson
10/20/2010 First TV Interview – Tyler Perry Speaks Out About Being Molested
10/19/2010 Susan Boyle, Jackie Evancho, Debby Boone – The Next Big Thing
10/18/2010 Exclusive: The 16-Year-Old Boy Who Killed His Molester

Air Date: October 20, 2010

An amazing hour with the talented Tyler Perry. It’s like no other hour of reality television because Tyler shares the most intimate details of his abuse. What a gift this show is for those who have been sexually abused. It really shocked me what comes out of his mouth. Bless Tyler.

After his mother’s death Tyler Perry is talking about his tormented childhood, and the sexual abuse he had to endure.

The physical abuse came from his father. “It’s hard for me to look at those pictures. I feel like I died as a child.” His aunt Jerry talks about pointing a gun at his father after his father beat him with a vacuum cord. Tyler would escape in his mind to a park. At one point Tyler says, he was suicidal (he slit his wrists.)

Today he is 41 years old, talking about a male neighbor molesting him. There was a man he describes in his past he knew from church. This man from church was his first sexual experience (he performed oral sex on Tyler as a boy.) Another incident happens at age 10. This time it is a female neighbor. “This is so disgusting what these people did to this little boy.”

“My mother was not strong like my aunt.” Tyler talks about loving his mother.

What helped him along the way was he learned “What you feed will grow in your life. And what you don’t will starve.”

Oprah tells the audience that his father is still alive. Tyler provides for his father today by sending him monthly checks, and he pays for his father’s housing. Tyler says, I don’t care what he thinks about this show.

On November 5th, Oprah and Tyler will have a much need discussion with a mostly male studio audience. Together they will help others confront their own truth of sexual abuse.

Air Date: October 18, 2010

The unspeakable happens to teen Daniel Kovarbasich and one day he reaches his breaking point. As you read on, you may think Daniel’s life has been carefully crafted like a hollywood script. But the truth as he tells it on the Oprah show is his real life nightmare.

Who: 16-year-old Daniel Kovarbasich and Duane Hurley

What: According to Daniel, Duane Hurley befriends him and eventually repeatedly sexually abuses him for more than 3 years until the day he stabbed him to death.

When: January 22, 2010 is the day Daniel snaps and kills his molester Duane

Where: North Ridgeville

Why: Duane lured Daniel first by his dog, then paying to do odd jobs, and later rewarding him with the freedom to drive his cars. Daniels family even discusses how they looked Duane up on the sex offenders site but found no records. Daniels parents even went with Daniel to Daune’s home. Eventually, they thought of Daune a close family friend.

How: Daniel’s dad drops him over Daune’s house one morning before school. Daniel stabs Daune 55 times

Get more details about the case here.